Thursday, May 13, 2010

Manners - do people still have it?!

I've been meaning to do a post on something else entirelyand earlier this week but trust the Boss lady, she has found a way of keeping me gainfully employed this week. Plus, typing right now aint no fun -

I am a very fast and furious typist, as in, i type so fast my keyboards smoke, ok, not exactly but u get the point, am very fast. Prof made sure i started learning it right from primary 6, paid off cos i've always been a lawyer/secretary.

So, last weekend, i went to go and fix my nails. I never do that but i saw some girl's own and it looked really nice, always wanted to do it, decided to try it (thats the 2nd time in all my life).
as expected, everyone thot it looked nice, my fingers were heavier and felt akward. i found it difficult to do my normal stuff like ..... u know.

to type - na wahala. as in, see ur sister, it was hard. Jenifa for do better pass me sef. its like a village girl wearing 6 inch high heels for the first time, omo, e no funny!
i concluded by asking myself "WHO SEND ME MESSAGE O?" so am pulling them out tomorow, abegi!

i digress. to the message of the day....

when people hear manners, ettiquettes, respect etc, what exactly goes thru their mind?

this guy added me on facebook like a zillion times, kept refusing but found we grew up in the same town and attend same church, so out of courtesy (or so i thot) i accepted. he keeps trying to chat, i always ignore. so today out of the magnanimity of my heart, i responded to his chat. hi, hello, wassup etc he went:

boy: so i guess u r married right? u look like u r married

me: oh, married people have looks now? how do they look?

boy: yes now. you are fat and u look matured.

(in my head, bells went off)

me: XCUSE ME?! did u just call me FAT?!

boy: yes now, i know what i see.

that was it. i practically went off the hook and delivered a lecture.

u dont just call people fat, its rude. least of all to a lady, least of all to someone who is not particularly your friend, u dont go about telling them they are fat. u keep ur personal opinions of them to yourself until you have the kind of relationship that allows u to say stuff like that. of cos u and i are not going to get to that point where u call me fat............. etc

he said sorry o, he didnt mean it. i just couldnt be bothered, i told him everything i had to tell him and went off. am gonna delete him.

ok, maybe what he did wasnt that much, it was just to serve as some deterence. this kind of boy goes scott free and next he's going to say my boobs look sexy, i mean, really! he's probably paying for some other peoples sins of rudeness.

thats how someone posted a pic of me at salsa on her facebook page sometime ago, and a guy i've known for long and whom we had no love lost btw us decided to comment and say -

"how omotee wey fat like this go fit dance salsa?"

my other friends on the page immediately told him how wrong it was of him to say that and how he shd wait and hear from me. i replied there and sent a strongly worded msg to him of how it was extremely rude of him to call me fat on facebook and how it wasnt his biz wax if i could dance or not no matter how fat. he damaged an already akward relationship. he apologised but hey, he entered the list of mannerless folks.

i think its important that poeople should know what to say to whom and where. u dont go slapping the butts of someone u r not dating or have a close relationship with (yep, know a guy who did that to a friend).
or a lawyer i saw in court who wanted to get friendly and after greeting me goes "so whats that your number na?" i can cite a zillion examples. some people are just rude!
its important that people should know how to talk and address people. manners is not just kneeling and prostrating for elderly people or pretending like you dont talk in their presence.

anyway, i have 4 files to work on and just heard one is to be handed in on saturday, gotta go now!
may your days be free from mannerless twarts!!

14 comments:

RepressedOne said...

BUAHAHAH!!! Sorry it happened to you but na the naija way...A bunch of tactless bunch. I've gotten quite a few of that mess myself especially from women...ones wey no be sey dem still lepa like sec school days oh. Mschew

lol...pele sha! people don't know how to speak...ture or not!

inspector gadget said...

wow !! people can just be completely tactless and rude.. and really marriage = being fat??

Mamuje said...

Its not even funny. He should be flogged online and in real life till he goes into a coma. And when he has come out of the coma he should be flogged again....this should be repeated until he turns purple! Ewu kambia!

doll said...
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doll said...

sorry bout the last comment..the guy is so tactless.a lot of folks are tactless anywaysgo ahead and delete him pls

Anonymous said...

Don't worry about it. Generally, Nigerians (an in fact other Africans) use the word "fat" a lot and often times they don't mean any harm by it. In fact, it can sometimes even mean a good thing as in you're wealthy and well-taken care of.

Myne Whitman said...

I had to laugh oo, but seriously which one concern him? My dear me I just fashi such people. Enjoy the coming weekend.

Nice Anon said...

Ha haaaaaaaaaaa!Sorry for laughing but that was mad funny

Nutty J. said...

bruhahahaha...e good as you delete am.

Imagine oh!! were did tact go?

Next time dont just delete...click on the 'report' button.

LMAO...

The nitty-gritty tales of a housewife said...

Lol!@ ur nails...who truly send you message! My sista, i have being called PHAT all my life that i don't give a hoot anymore! becox i don tire to dey diet o! hehehehe. Size does not determine one's personality or performance in bedmatics course 101..*wink* God made African women to be WOMANLY & not toothpicks like the stereotype promoted by models & actresses! Just look at MONIQUE.....it was rude of them! Just give them a couple of years more & see as dem belly go be like 5months pregnancy!....lol...i beg no let am bother you, because there are many men that like BIG , BOLD & BEAUTIFUL BABES O! So you can type very fast ehn? me likey!

Tia said...

LOL..that boy is silly..thats rude. I would have definitely gone off on him and then delete. But I am with you on the nails. I decided to try them a few months ago for the first time and uumm..lets just say never again..they are so uncomfortable and highly annoying..eish!

Omotee! said...

Repressed i tire o. women? i go slap that woman, i tell u

inspector gadget: as in really reall?! am shocked too. ps, i loooove those shoes, can i have them? nice having u here ma'am

mamuje: Jesus, i laffed like a mad person reading ur comment. bubbly read and laffed. flogged until purple?! i just too love u jo!

doll, didnt even see the comment. very silly boy o.

anonymous: oh well, now i've taught him a lesson, he'll now know its not a generally acceptable thing. think he shd pay me for the lesson.

miss whitman: thanks ma'am, weekend started on sunday as i had to work, but it was fun sha. how u dey?

nice anon, hmm, now i can laff, then, i was raging o, as in raging madly!

nutty J, now thats a sweet solution from a sweet person. wink wink ** how are ya?

nittygritty: honored to have u here! no mind them o, i think of myself as highly FABULOUS and gorgeous 14! thats my decision o.
the nails, wont believe i havent removed it. havent had time to go to the salon or get chemical to remove them, think am getting used to it kinda. but i aint doing again o. motor no dey kill bush pesin!

hey miss Tia! the nails were a horror. not doing again until my wedding day, thats about it for me men

blogoratti said...

Ouch..sorry.
Apologies on their behalf!

Anonymous said...

This is the funniest thing i have read in a long time.
Nice blog and for some reason you sound awfully honest which i admire. keep it up.