Thursday, November 29, 2012

Favourite child

A friend has 4 kids and was gisting me about each of them and their attitudes. I asked her if she has a favourite child. She said she hopes not but sometimes she feels like a particular one makes her happy sort of.

My brother makes insinuations like my parents prefer me. We are just two, boy and girl.

I also know lots of men are partial towards their daughters, does this make her the favourite?

So, do you think it's true every parent has a favourite child?do you think it's ok to have a favourite child? 

What's right or wrong with it?

Friday, November 23, 2012

Next life, I will be a man

I belong to some Christian ladies group on Facebook. And we all know where there are plenty women......

So a lady posted something I would call a list of instruction for women to follow. In summary, it says to make our homes lovely, peAceful, welcoming etc for our man. And that we should listen to him, cook, take care of him, stroke his ego and all the plenty instructions women are bombarded with on marriage. 
See vexing for comments o! I thot it was only feminist me wey dey always vex for that kain mata, I get senior vexers o! 
The author spoilt the whole matter when she added that if u dont do all those, there are other women waiting to do all those things and more. 
That very phrase is one of the reasons marriages don't work. Because we feel the need to eat shit so we can remain mrs somebody. Iranu oshi.
You should have seen the way my eyes rolled to the back of my head.

I know this issue gets an over flogging every other day but it annoys me each passing moment. 
Most marriage seminars, counselling sessions and the likes seem to focus on how marriage can be convenient for men. It's always women, women and women all the frigging time! Every erring man and women who validate crap is quick to wave the a-wise-woman-builds-her-home magic wand, the defence seems to work every time anyway. 

How about reminding the man to do his part all the time? To remind men that it takes 2 willing people not one enslaved woman to make marriage work? 
Women are expected to always be understanding, manage funds, work and still be super moms and wives. You expect me to go to work, face 3 times the kind of crap that comes your way cos am just a woman and still expect me to always be ready to give you a warm hug and kiss, great meal, clean home and kids, fuck like a minx (pardon the French) and always be good in every aspect. So who takes care of me? 

If marriage were about men jumping to the next woman who can do better then no man will be married cos there will always be someone better than u in one aspect. 
And no, this is not my excuse from performing my wifely duties or becoming the Proverbs 31 woman. Even she wasn't super woman cos the bible implied she had maidservants. That's why she didn't die in the process of becoming that woman.
Dare I also imply that her husband was a fine man who didn't threaten her with a 2nd wife and didn't give her crap. It's only fair since she's perfect, she must have had a perfect man too, abi nah.

As for me, I'd love to be tis woman as long as hubby is ready to be that man who worths her. Yep I said it. No, I didn't backslide. I'm just a woman tired of reading these plenty instructions.

Signed on behalf of angry women. Endorse if you are tired of these bull crap. 

Of Jeeps and Jalopies

I read a story on one of those random bcs people send. It was about a mouse trap. A house owner got a mouse trap. The mouse got so worried and scared, ran to the cow and pig and chicken, saying there is a mouse trap and they should find a solution to it. All 3 big animals took their turn to laugh at him cos a mouse trap obviously isn't meant for cows, pigs and chickens, yeah? Right.

The mouse trap caught a snake instead by the tail. The snake bit the house owner's wife and she fell Ill. People came to greet the sick woman. The Ouse owner killed the chicken and pig to entertain their visitors.
Eventually she died and he had to kill the cow to entertain even more guests. And all those big animals thought they weren't concerned about the mouse trap.
Am sure you get the morale of the story.

It's the same way we usually choose to look at problems in this country. 
The road to my house is tres horrible. Last year hubby and some of our neighbours tried to get a number of other neighbours so they could find a temporary solution since govt wasn't gonna solve it anytime soon. But they all refused to have this meeting. They were too busy. They still had alternative routes they could manage and manoeuvre with their jeeps and good cars. So they decided to ignore these poor people and their jalopies. 
This year the road naturally got worse and caved in. It was so bad even jeeps couldn't move easily. The problem eventually became that of the rich and the poor and their respective jeeps and jalopies.

It's the same way the boko haram issue was handled. Sometimes you go to church expecting the matter to be raised so we can all pray. But no, it was a problem for the northerners until bombs started landing in Abuja. Then it became serious. There was no sure way of avoiding it. 

It baffled me when the subsidy issue was hot and some people's solution was to pray for God's favour so that even if fuel is sold at 1k per litre they would be able to afford it. 
I wondered if i didn't like that theory because I wasn't Christian enough or because it just didn't sound right. So what happens to those who aren't Christian enough to pray for jeeps and money to buy 1k fuel? Isn't this notion rather selfish? 
The story of Esther in the bible came to my mind. She was a queen. Comfortable. Enjoying. She could choose not to involve herself with those poor people ans their wahala. But she chose to risk her life for the sake of her people 
and that is what she is being remembered for till today. 
It was one of those sleepless nights that I came across this blog. Nadael. Brilliant post. 

Oh well, just thinking/ranting. But Then, how does my rant affect the price of fish in the market.