Friday, September 17, 2010

Best Break-Up Method

I appreciate all the advice you guys gave in my last post. Thanks. Hopefully, this matter has been laid to rest.

I had this discussion with some of my friends, all male on the best way to break up with your girlfriend.
I was of the opinion that the particular method does not really matter, pesin wey no dey do no dey do, u no fit force am.
I've always thot waiting for a guy to develop courage or time or whatever to tell you to your face that its over is like hoping for something that may not happen.
Personally, i have not met many guys who would prefer to break up with u face to face. The ones i know are the usual cowards (no offense) who would expect you to read the signs and move on.

Out of the 3 or 4 boyfriends (sometimes i get confused as to the correct number) that i've ever had, only one seemed to be bold enough to say he needed a break for a little while to "get himself together". The other ones pretty much used the "sign language" to break up with me.
What i've tagged "Sign language" usually occurs in the following stages:

- you always call him, he hardly ever calls anymore
- he is always so busy he hardly has time to pick your calls
- when he does pick your call, he apologises and asks that you pls let him call you back which he never gets round to doing for say.... 3 days
- he avoids every kind of meeting where you'll ask him what exactly is going on
-if you are lucky to find him at home or anywhere, he will make sure the environment is not condusive for such talks or he falls ill. Either ways, no discussion takes place

I know most girls prefer that a guy breaks-up with them face to face. Usually so they can have "Closure". Why this method is prefered, i really dont understand. I am not sure I like the face to face method.

I believe you should start suspecting something is really wrong when you get to stage 2. At that point, really, the game is over and waiting for him to tell you to ur face that its over is not really paramount. But hey, thats just omotee.

So the real question is, would you rather a guy broke up with you over the phone or via text message or via e-mail or giving signs or do it face to face?
Whats the best break-up method?

24 comments:

Myne Whitman said...

I just want you to tell me. But the sign language works just as well, after about a week or so of that. I'll probably be the one to tell it to your face. So that no one will say they thought...

SHE said...

The sign languague is annoying. I think it is also cowardly. If you can't tell someone to their face, perhaps a phone call will be good enough.
Text message? I think that would be disrespectful.

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Wise Sage said...

I dunno bout how wise it is, but i find that i always use the sign-language (tsk tsk), but trust me some people will get through the whole nine-yards and still not have a clue...but this is only cos i think that so-called closure is over-rated.

misspumping said...

just tell the person its over save your time and the other partys time the heart does break it is a muscle , it will hurt but nobody dies from this pain at least to the best of my knowledge no one has

Fragilelooks said...

break ups are really not so easy to do. ladies likewise gents sometimes find it difficult to tell it to the face, but if u r smart, u can read inbtw lines.cus some will never tell u jack.

ShadeNonconformist said...

Definitely face to face. All other methods are just cowardly and lame to me. Like why the hell do you need "signs" or why would you break up with someone via e-mail, text? Last time i checked, when you asked the person out, you didn't do it through technology. Smcheew. I hate crap like that.

Nutty J. said...

Sign language is enough to get me up and moving....

I've discovered that waiting for him to do it face to face may just result in me wasting months of my life span wondering whats up....and I no get that kin time to waste for man matter

etoile Oye said...

agree with nutty jay... and mehn! do i hate it when they avoid a meeting for closure when u pick up the sign language and just wanna formalize things...

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Helene said...

I would much prefer it as a face-to-face conversation but most guys are total wimps and will take the easy way out. And, honestly, if a guy can't treat you with the respect you deserve by talking to you face-to-face then he probalby never deserved to be with you in the first place.

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The nitty-gritty tales of a housewife said...

face to face .....can read the facial expression better & part as friends.

Lara said...

any way is fine with me, as far as I do not have to be told by a 3rd party...

2cute4u said...

Either way works o.. It just depends on how long the party wants to suffer emotionally or otherwise or when he/she is ready to come to terms with the fact that it's really over. Some don't even believe it when they are told.. They go as far as wanting to rationalise it, see if the person was doped or jassed, lol

LusciousRon said...

If you can open your mouth to 'toast' me then you better be able to open them when you want to break it off!

I DETEST the sign language. It's just cowardly but either way works just fine.

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AlooFar said...

how about breaking up signs from ladies? highly needed. pls ;)

The Girl with the Red Hair said...

once i get the sign language, i don waka comot sharp sharp. I no dey waste time at all

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